Being a Mother

I just received this personal story and thought I would share it with you all:

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman
out to dinner and a movie. She said, 'I love you, but I know this
other woman loves you and would Love to spend some time with you.'
The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my Mother, who has
been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three
children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. .

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.
'What's wrong, are you well,' she asked? My mother is the type of
woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is
a sign of bad news.

'I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,' I
responded 'just the two of us.' She thought about it for a moment, and
then said, 'I would like that very much.'

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit
nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed
to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on.
She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to
celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that
was as radiant as an angel's. 'I told my friends that I was going to
go out with my son, and they were impressed,'
she said, as she got into the car. 'They can't wait to hear about our
meeting.'

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and
cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.

After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read
large print. Halfway through the entrees, I lifted my eyes and saw
Mother sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

'It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,' she
said. 'Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,' I
responded...
During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation nothing
extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life.
We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house
later, she said, 'I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me
invite you.' I agreed.

'How was your dinner date?' asked my wife when I got home. 'Very nice,
much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack.
It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for
her. Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a
restaurant receipt from the same place Mother and I had dined. An
attached note said: 'I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I
could be there; but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you
and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant
for me.

'I love you, son'

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in
time: 'I love YOU' and to give our loved ones the time that they
deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them
the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till
some 'other'
time.

Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after
you've had a baby... somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother,
'normal' is history.

Somebody said you can't love the second child as much as you love the
first... somebody doesn't have two or more children.

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and
delivery.... somebody never watched her 'baby'
get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten. .. or on a plane
headed for military 'boot camp.'

Somebody said a Mother can stop worrying after her child gets
married... somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or
daughter-in- law to a mother's heartstrings.

Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves
home... somebody never had grandchildren. .

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to
tell her... somebody isn't a mother.


This isn't just about being a mother; it's about appreciating the
people in your lives while you have them.... no matter who that person
is!

Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become
actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character. Watch your character, for it
becomes....your destiny.


'Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is
fighting some kind of battle'.

What a beautiful story with a great lesson

Thank you so much for sharing that

That is a great story and much to take out of it.

My dad is in a nursing home and is not doing real good. He and I were very close and it is so hard to watch him age. Life is so busy yet it is important to visit when I can.



Our area had a terrible accident a couple of years ago. 5 students on their way home from a highschool hockey game were in a terrible accident. The car they were in decided to pass another car and lost control and a van broad-sided them. All 5 boys were killed. The mothers (and fathers) were totally devastated and will never get over the trauma of losing a child.

For other parents that went to funerals there was an outpouring of love and hugging of their own children that luckily were not involved. It affected everyone in the community. I know it has brought other families closer as a result of the tragedy to this day.

My children don't know me anymore.

I don't know how to get past this.